In We Need to Talk Ida Östensson and Thor Rutgersson examine six topics where men normally fail to communicate: love, vulnerability, sex, escape mechanisms, friendship and ego. The book includes interviews Thor conducted with famous and unknown men alike – to try and dismantle the fabric of masculinity. To accompany the conversations, Ida delves into the facts and numbers, delivering undeniable proof that men are suffering – and when they do, those around suffer too! We Need to Talk comes packed with challenges and bullet points on how to say goodbye to toxic masculinity – tips collected from anonymous male surveys and reference groups, as well as submissions from women and others.

The talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community.